A candle brings light
A candle brings warmth
A candle eases fear
A candle helps guide
We can learn much from looking at a candle, what it does, we should do. A candle in its simpicity can do so much to improve less desireable situations. We are so much more than just a simplistic candle, wouldn’t it be in our best interest to do for others what the simple candle does.
We only get one chance to make our lives a light, just like a candle can only give light while it is lit. Let your flame burn brightly as a candle and see what a difference we can make.
Be a candle for all!!
Paul Meyer is quoted as saying, “Communication-the human connection- is the key to personal and career success.”
I am in the midst of preparing a presentation on communication based on John C. Maxwell’s book “Everyone Communicates Few Connect”. As I have been researching material for the presentation I learn even more, I have always tried to make my communication as effective as possible but I do know that there is still considerable room for improvement.
John Maxwell says that “people cannot succeed in life without communicating effectively.”
What are some of the key components of communication?
I have listed what I call “The 5 Be’s of Effective Communication”:
Be Authentic- If you are not speaking from your heart, it won’t take long for others to see that and lessen the value of what you are telling them. You are the only person who can tell your story.
Be Clear – Lessen any chance of being misunderstood by being absolutely clear in your message. The consequences of being misunderstood or misinterpreted can be quite severe.
Be Certain- If you lack certainty in your self how can you persuade others to take you with any sense of authority.
Be Open – Don’t be afraid – sometimes what we have to say may hurt, but what we say should never be hurtful in any way.
Be Receptive – Sometimes to be a great communicator you first must learn to become a superior listener.
Place a high degree of importance on your ability to communicate and practice doing it, as Jim Rohn says, “Effective communication is 20% what you know and 80% how you feel about what you know.”
Living on the vast prairie of ancient Lake Agassiz I have a true appreciation of trees. So few of them to be found other than along the rivers, around farmsteads, in towns, or in shelter belts. Trees have a very useful purpose as they provide shade for us to sit in to rest, they offer landmarks to help us find our way, and they provide protection from the relentless winds that we experience year round in this part of the country.
I remember my Grandpa talking about the dust bowl in the thirties and how the topsoil would be piled deep along the fencelines and in the few tree lines that were in the region and how afterwords much work was done to plant shelterbelts to prevent the massive erosion from occurring.
Today it seems that these former guardians of the soil are now being removed in the name of agricultural progress. The machinery is large and needs more room to maneuver and the increased use of pesticides on crops has brought much destruction to the trees that we may once again soon be wishing that we had better tended to.
When we use paper foolishly we say that we are “killing a tree” but I think we kill far more through inappropriate management of our resources in the name of progress.
Once the trees are gone what will stand in the way of progress? Lack of oxygen?
Have you ever tried something unique or maybe outside of the mainstream, and have had folks wonder how you could be so irresponsible? Well, irresponsible may not be the appropriate choice of words in many of these situations. Let’s see if the word daring would better fit.
If we are truly trying to do something that is of benefit to ourselves or to others, there should be little room for shame in trying something that others have not. When some one voices a concern such as “how dare you,” don’t be worried that you have offended them or that you have done something inappropriate, think more along the lines of being daring, willing to step out in faith to obtain a goal that for many others is entirely out of grasp.
If we don’t dare to reach for a goal, we will never achieve it, so it takes a lot of daring to stretch out that arm, to take a step into the unknown, to be daring enough to take a chance. We can only accomplish a goal if we try and many times it takes more than ambition to get started towards a goal….it takes being daring.